It has been said by experts that how we say something is far more important than what we actually say.
The main secret to be able to powerfully say something is to learn how to master using the tonality of your voice. If you can master the tonality of your voice when you speak to someone, you can communicate with them on covert levels so that you can install hidden messages in their minds without them knowing.
Conventionally speaking, there are two major types of voice tonality: Command tonality and question tonality. The command tonality is demonstrated when you say something with a deeper tone in your voice. The deeper voice tone implies that you are either giving the person instructions or that you are speaking to them as an authority figure.
Question tonality is demonstrated when you use a higher tone of voice, and while this tonality obvious implies that you are questioning the person you are speaking to about something, question tonality can also be used to convey confusion, to cause the other person to doubt their own conclusions, or to soften your suggestions so that they appear as questions rather than the commandments you are actually intending them to be.
But even though command tonality and question tonality are the two mainstream types of tonalities that persuasion artists use to communicate with people, there are several other variations of voice tonality that should be considered and that aren’t often talked about. The most important being how you can use the tonality of your voice to convey a certain context.
By using your voice to convey a subtle context, you can literally say anything to anyone without appearing to be actually saying it. This skill will prevent you from ever getting blamed for saying the wrong thing to someone, because in reality you never actually said it. A classic example of how a person uses tonality to control the context of the information you hear is how women speak seductively to men.
We have all at one time or another witnessed a woman talking to a man about something that seemed unimportant, but soon after the man listens to the woman speaking to him, they begin to find themselves attracted to the woman whom they are listening to. This type of communication works perfectly for the women who use it, because the men whom they are speaking to are never able to accuse them of being provocative. The women cannot be blamed because they never actually said anything that was sexual (they only implied it through the tonality of their voice).
A key principle to keep in mind is that even though these women didn’t utter anything that was sexual that the tone of their voice was what was packed with sexual connotations. Although women have been using these advanced communication models for years and years, men have begun to learn how to use the tonality of their voice to generate feelings of attraction in the women whom they are communicating with.
The best feature about using the tonality of your voice is that you can do it innocently in everyday conversation without anyone knowing, and even if they did know what you were doing they couldn’t accuse you anyway.
