So why send a card to someone who doesn’t come into those categories or worse, used to come into one of them but for various reasons is now banished from your life and loves?
I’ll tell you a story which will tell you why. A few years ago a friend and I had a row over what at the time seemed like a big thing to both of us – you won’t believe how this came about. My friend of over 6 years saw that I had no curtains in our new living room, we had recently moved and things had to be bought when we had the cash, so very kindly, she offered to loan me some full length curtains which she no longer needed.
I was really pleased and thought it typical of her to be kind like this. The curtains went up and looked just great. We weren’t properly sorted out in the new house though and on the table next to the curtains, while we looked for a permanent home for it, sat my children’s hamster cage. Cute little fellow and especially so when we let him out to run around and yes, you’ve guessed it, he used to climb up curtains and even brick walls sometimes, a real mountain climbing hamster.
However he never did any damage so we let him carry on. But one awful day when I moved the cage to clean behind it I saw what he had done, quietly and for heaven knows how long, he had been pulling the curtain through into his cage and chewing it up for bedding. Oh no, I couldn’t believe it, there was an almost perfectly round hole about 3 inches across, the curtains were ruined.
Oh not good but I thought that at least my friend didn’t need these curtains and had even once suggested that I could keep them, I assumed it would all be ok.
Well it turned out to be not OK at all, when I told her what had happened she went very quiet and didn’t say much but that was it! She just didn’t call, or visit or say anything at all – blank. However much I tried to repair the damage to our friendship, not the curtains, it was no good, she was fuming and I was out.
It was very hurtful, the damage was an accident but I had lost a friend over it and our chatty afternoons had gone.
What did I do? Nothing actually. It was many years ago and I was angry with her too by now.
But now what do I think? I think, no more than that, I know that life is too short for this kind of thing, friends are so valuable, families are vital and arguments between them are futile, useless, hurtful and damaging all round.
What I say to you is find a way through, find a way to make up before someone dies and you no longer have the chance, send that card with a make up message today – see below for an especially nice way to do it – but please do it.
Http://www.scentacard.com is the place, go now and make up, remember life is too short. If you want flowers then go to http://www.bloomsofguernsey.com which have good fresh stuff, but please do it before it is too late.
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