It takes two to tango, and it usually takes two to cause disharmony in a relationship. If you and your spouse find that you are arguing and fighting all the time, it’s because you don’t listen to each other. No one listens after the voice is raised to a certain level. Listening occurs in a calm environment. How do you get someone to listen? Ask them to listen! It takes practice. Listening is a learned skill and one that needs constant attention. You can’t listen once and then think you’ve done your job.
However, problems usually happen because communication has come to a halt. When someone says, “You don’t listen to me, ” they mean it. It’s another way of saying that you two have problems. Ignoring the warning signs, or even ignoring the pleas from your spouse, further proves you are not interested in the relationship, and certainly not in your spouse.
A good marriage is based on love and mutual respect. Without that, no relationship will flourish or last long at all. Once your partner believes you have lost interest – it’s a steady spiral down if you don’t check yourself and adapt some correction action.
If you head to a marriage counselor, the first question you will hear is, “Do you want to save your marriage?” The assumption is usually that of course you do, since you are there. But how many people have been all but dragged to marriage counseling and they did not want to be there? Answer the question honestly – if you want to save your marriage, then work on it. If you don’t, then leave.
Simple things can usually keep a marriage strong, and even repair some serious damage: flowers for no reason, attending an event you aren’t too interested in, offering to help around the house rather than sitting around playing video games, have meaningful conversations.
Above all else: listen, communicate, stop yelling, pay attention, and be attentive.
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